They Love You! They Really Love You! (But What If They Don’t?)

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“Bright Eye” (©️Robin King)

Everyone loves you! Everyone loves your art!

But what if they don’t?

What if no one even likes – or, maybe worse, no one cares – about your art?

You laugh if you can. You cry if you have to. Then you decide whether or not you need to have your work liked more than you need to create the work that no one likes or cares about.

If you can create what you want and aren’t crushed by the reception the work gets, then you make more. Otherwise? You find out what you need to do to please people and then make the work that will bring you the notice and/or approval you want.

Or maybe you fling yourself back and forth between these options? Trying not to care, trying to find out what people want, trying not to care…trying, trying, trying.

Or maybe you pack it all in and stop trying so you can stop caring, until you realize that won’t work because you really need to make your art so you start all over again. Trying, caring.

Then, in one of those cosmic bursts of magic, someone loves your art. Not everyone. But someone.

Maybe it’s you.

10 thoughts on “They Love You! They Really Love You! (But What If They Don’t?)”

  1. I liked reading this post. It hits home with me in so many ways. I recall a recent art club meeting where members brought paintings for a “club contest”. I brought a painting I’d done that I absolutely loved. Everyone commented on it, but when the votes were revealed, out of the 6 paintings there, mine was the only one that received ZERO votes. Nobody really liked it, I guess. Or did they like it but liked something else better? I don’t know. I still love the painting though, so maybe I just don’t know what “good art” even is. I do make a lot of bad art, and surprisingly, people sometimes like what I don’t. So, really, it’s all an unpredictable guessing game, and like Rick Nelson sang in “Garden Party” we can’t please everyone, so we have to please ourselves.

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  2. It’s awful, but tbh, you have to either develop the hide of a crocodile, or learn not to care about public opinion. It’s always nice to get the praise and “likes,” but I’ve found, especially with age, that you have to be your own best friend first, and be happy with what you’re doing. I’ve known a number of commercial artists who for most of their adult life, made art that pleased their clients and was popular with viewers, but didn’t necessarily make the creators happy. (I was married to one, and he died angry and bitter about never really making the art he wanted.) Popularity might make you rich, and we would all love to have a little more money right now. :) But it means nothing if you’re not happy with what you’re working on.

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  3. There are times it seems like hiding my art in a closet would be the best thing to do, no worries about whether or not anyone would like it. But in the end, when you’re in the zone, creating, all those outside voices can be silenced in your head anyway, which is a wonderful feeling. I hope you never stop creating.

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  4. Hi!! Thank you!! LOL – yes, we need to be thick-skinned. Most of what I do is to explore or experiment – totally to please myself. It used to feel a little selfish but, yes, as I get older I realize every day that it’s a good thing (for me, anyway). Having to create just for clients must be very challenging after a while. 🥰👋

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  5. Yes!!! So right, esp about “in the zone” – the thrill of discovering something I love in all those shapes & colors makes the world disappear! Thank you, Cindy! (And pleeeeeeez don’t hide your art in a closet!!) 🥰👋

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  6. I agree with what you say, more or less. I’m at the point in life now where I don’t care what others think, more or less — ;) if I cared I certainly would not be doing half the “garbage” I do now. My nearly 20 year break helped rid me of the need for approval — more or less. ;)

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